About Us

My name is Karin Smith and I created PASAC, Partners of Adults Sexually Abused as Children.

I started this website for partners in February 2002. I was in a relationship with a man who was sexually abused as a child. I did not understand why he would shut down, disassociate and withdraw. I looked for groups for partners of sexually abused survivors in my Southern California area and on the internet but did not find any.

I was desperately seeking support and someone I could talk to about the difficult & crazy feelings that arose from being in a relationship with an abuse survivor. Finding nothing in my area, I decided to start a group of my own. I have since moved to Oregon, and have married Justin (the survivor in our relationship). I now maintain this website for others seeking information, support, or simply for a reference (Note that your privacy is respected). If you would like further support please use the Contact Page, and provide us with more information about your circumstances.

My goal is to let people know that there is hope and “light at the end of the tunnel” when in a relationship with a survivor. There are numerous books written on the subject that can be of great help. I have read all the books listed on the PASAC recommended reading list. I highly recommend partners read as much as possible. The books will clarify for the partners what the survivors struggle with every day of their lives.

It is important to realize that survivors are good people who need to be, and want to be loved. Survivors also need to learn how to give love, to trust again, to feel safe expressing their emotions–things they could not do growing up. Ultimately, the survivor, just like their partner, strives to become a whole person, happy and loving, as God intended for all his children.

Don’t give up, life gets better and your love and your bonding becomes stronger. You both deserve to be happy.

If you would like to know more about PASAC, please explore our site or send an email. Your comments and suggestions are always welcome.

Thank you for visiting PASAC.